Chances are… you’ve wondered what true love is all about

Is there a word that is used more than “love”? It rolls off the tongue, doesn’t it? “I love my family. I love my job. I love a good steak. I love travelling.” Hopefully, family ranks a little higher than a juicy sirloin. But what is love?

Is it simply an emotion we feel? Is it that sensation of wobbly knees when we’re around someone who elicits those feelings in us? Psychologists call that limerance, a state of mad attraction or infatuation. Love has been known to make people irrational and do silly things. Does love just happen? If that’s the case, why does it only happen for some? There may be more questions about love than answers, but it’s something we’re all looking for.

Sadly people fall in and out of love. Something interferes and disrupts what looked to be beautiful and promising. We have certain expectations and when those expectations aren’t met it puts love to the test.

Often, love is conditional. We may say, “I’ll love you if …” and then finish that sentence in many ways:

“… if you do certain things for me.”

“… if you provide for me in a certain way.”

“… if you don’t mess up.”

Based on those premises, love is bound to fail and disappoint.

Love can leave you totally vulnerable. When you truly love someone, your heart is laid bare—primed to give and receive love, but also open to deep pain.  Many live with the fear of rejection because of the fleeting nature of some forms of love.

But true love is not hormonal; it’s not just a chemical reaction in our brain. It’s spiritual and engages us at the core of our beings. We can only experience that love when we experience God’s love—a love that is patient, kind, sacrificial, and not conditional on our performance.#ChancesAre true love is spiritual and we can only experience that love when we experience God’s unconditional love. Click To Tweet

The Bible describes a God who not only loves, but a God whose very nature is love. We are loved by God not so much because of who we are, but more so because of who God is. God demonstrated his love through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus. That love extends to everyone. It’s up to us to receive it. When we do, we’ll experience love like never before.

That’s the kind of love we desire because that’s the kind of love we were created to know—the kind we need. Knowing that we are loved in such a powerful way makes it possible to love others in the same way. Author Henri Nouwen wrote, “The desire for God’s unconditional love is the fruit of having been touched by that love.” Once we’ve tasted it, we’ll know what we, and others, have been looking for so desperately.

God’s love is also the only love that lasts forever because only God is eternal. So, if you’re hungry for love, you’re actually hungry for God because God is love.

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Michelle Tepper is a speaker for RZIM in the US, teaching worldwide on a number of subjects, including the problem of pain, God’s character, sex, relationships, and love. Since 2011, Michelle has been speaking overseas as a part of the RZIM European team and as a guest lecturer at the Oxford Centre for Christian Apologetics. Prior to joining the RZIM staff, Michelle worked for six years as the University Chaplain for St. Aldate’s—a thriving, historic, student friendly church located in the heart of Oxford. Michelle has strong ties to Oxford since she met and married her husband there. While studying abroad at Oxford University, she finished her bachelor’s degree in political science from Stetson University. Michelle then went on to pursue further studies in theology at the Oxford Centre for Christian Apologetics (OCCA) and was part of the OCCA’s first graduating class. Michelle and her husband, Peter, live in Florida with their daughter, Sophia.